So earlier today we had a class sharing about our pleasant and unpleasant experience.
I'm not gonna share my experiences neither am I gonna share my classmates experiences but I am gonna share that because of that unpleasant experience of mine, I learned to love and hate. Love all of my friends and my family through massive skinship moments. And hate men.
I became a feminist because of that experience and completely distrusts men especially back when I was in elementary. When I reached high school, I started to open up a little but it was just a tiny opening.
I expect the same outcome when I entered university but upon meeting my male classmates for the first time at the university orientation, I couldn't help but just love them all.
That's when I told myself that I could still be a feminist but draws an exemption to my classmates.
I don't know what's in them that made me love them so easily. Or maybe I unconsciously thought that it's finally time to let go. Either way, I don't really care.
Here's a pic with me and my classmates at school.
We're really a crazy bunch and we love wearing weird hats on Wednesday (wash day).
On my first blog, I talked about crushes. We all have them but we control where do we want this to go.
Although I already know that I'm gonna find a new "love" when I reached college ,but I never expected it to go in "that" direction. When I say "that", I meant being family-zoned.
*Sigh*
Anyway, I already accepted that there's no more chance of progress and that I have no plans of having a boyfriend so I simply ended it.
Either way, I'm simply contented with being his "cousin" and kitten in roleplay.
Anyway, looking back through the past, one thing I learned was never rush. Guys, you want an advice from a girl, here's some:
1.) RESPECT her.
You call yourself a man, right? Show some respect then.
Respect her in a way that you're not underestimating her. 9gag is very popular and I am a 9gagger myself but do know that the kitchen is NOT the ONLY place where should be.
2.) Know her not for the sake of getting him/her but to know the real him/her.
I've noticed this quite often. You just know a certain guy/girl just so you could get him/her and not even understanding why is he/she acting like this and that.
We all know that a girl's thoughts are one of the hardest puzzles to solve known to man kind but if you are willing enough to truly understands her thoughts and touch her heart then you will be able to 'solve' her.
I know that this is a risky thing to do since there's a 60-40 chances that you would get friendzoned. Being in that zone is hard, I've been there even though I'm a girl, but I'm actually happy that I experienced it. It's not the end of the world if you got friendzoned. Let it be. Accept that it just wasn't meant to be. There are a lot of other guys/girls out there who you would be able to open up and love you but if you stayed being bitter about it, then you would be blinded by the pain that you wouldn't be able to see the person for you.
3.) Don't be a pain.
This doesn't imply to most people but these people exists.
STOP following her around to much. STOP asking him/her if you could walk together at school. STOP getting JEALOUS 'cuz he/she ain't yours.
Yeah, it can be really sweet and all but it can really annoy the person. Give him/her some space and as I said from no. 2, if he/she is not the person for you, calm your mind then think clearly using only your brain (if you let your heart in while your thinking, you are forced to believe that it's only that person and no one else).
NOTE: I AM NOT SAYING THAT YOU SHOULD MOVE ON AFTER A MINUTE OR TWO. THINK FIRST, THEN ACT.
4.) NEVER RUSH.
If you're planning on confessing, check the calendar first.
I'm not saying that there's a specific time to confess but check if the time is right. NEVER confess to someone after you got to know that person even if it has reached a month. Timing is important. That's true. If you confess a little too early, then (most people) that person would feel pressured since they don't know you that well yet or that it was too sudden that you just bought a one way ticket to Rejection Land. Confess maybe once BOTH of you are REALLY comfortable with one another.
I hope that these advices are useful. I actually based that on personal experiences and my friend's experiences.
This is all for my second blog. OwO
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